So, motherhood in Munich: I started with work. I put work in the first place, I don’t know why, I guess it’s psychological. Yes, work is very important to me, I can’t imagine not working, it takes up lots of my time. Sometimes I get things done on weekends, sometimes I work in the evening. But it’s not like I have to. I do it for myself. I could leave work at 4.30 pm and not care about anything. But that’s not me. … The second one is home so everything that happens in the house. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, cleaning up, I don’t know, spending time at home after work, laundry, cooking – a hearth of sorts. Because everyone meets at home after all, in the evening, after school, after work, everyone is dead tired and this has to be a place where everyone feels well. So there is no fighting at home. It is a place where everyone has to make sure everyone is relaxed, right? So this is another part of motherhood, in my opinion: as a mother I’m responsible for making sure this is a home, not a hotel, but a place in which I, my husband, and my child have to feel good and which we are happy to come back to. … If they don’t feel good, then I won’t feel good so it’s a bit selfish. I simply want to have my peace. And in order to have it, everyone else also has to have their peace. Another very important, extremely important part of mothering are the weekly soccer trainings and the weekend soccer, which at first was a big drama because one has to drive the kid there, pick him up and all. Then he started managing on his own, by bike, every since he turned 7. So supporting him in that, all the ups and downs – we lost, we won, that boy said something ugly to me, and that boy says I can’t play, this and that. Trying to explain to the child that, I mean, the child explains to himself that life is not all about winning, that some people are better sometimes, that it’s not as mom’s been saying all that time that you’re so great, you’re the best, the most loved one. The moment a child starts playing soccer, he confronts – no, he faces, not confronts, he faces reality and says, oh, maybe I’m really not the fastest one and most this and most that as mom says? And soccer teaches team spirit. The child stops being the center of the works, it’s one of many and he has to adjust, which really helps. So soccer has been very important for us. Leisure, very important, on weekends. Mostly on weekends because there’s little time for that during the week. … Next topic: school. Just as we go to work and we think all the time, I mean, not all the time, but often we’ll think: ah, what a stupid cow. Kids think exactly the same about their peers, about their teachers. It’s exactly the same. So on the one hand we have school, the child is in an institution and has to adjust to it. It’s not like the school will adjust to him. That’s another step, after soccer, where the child realizes that he’s not the seventh wonder of the world after all, as mom’s been saying, and he gets it. … And it’s also about doing homework with a child who is not German even though he, my child speaks German totally without an accent, no accent at all. But… children are not taught at school how to study at home. If no one at home pays attention to it then – one really has to know how to learn, and children don’t know it. … No one ever helped me with that when I was a child. My learning methods were completely ineffective so now I help my son to figure out a system of effective leaning. Because he has his soccer and we want to have some free time so homework can’t take forever, right? … So that’s a big part of motherhood too. It’s not that, I mean, I have no ambition for him to become a nerd, but I know that the first two years of junior high (Gymnasium) are really, I won’t tell him that, but, he will know in two years, now I can still make him do things, so this is something he’ll learn now and he will always know how it works. If I don’t teach him this now, then in two years he’ll say: what do you know? So I’m doing it now. In two years I’ll have nothing to say anyway. The next point of motherhood is the Polish group. Because we meet once a week, once every two weeks, and I want him to have contact with Polish kids, I want him to speak Polish with them and he sees the difference. I mean, when I ask him, then there are Polish kids and there are other kids. And he has a friend at school, a Polish boy, with whom they used to go to the Polish school, but they speak German, they don’t speak Polish. But when he meets the kids from the Polish group, after school, they speak Polish, they only curse in German. … Another very important part of motherhood since this year is project number two: pregnancy. I’m really curious. I mean, my first pregnancy was an early one, I was still a student and I looked at things completely differently than I do now. It was more like: it is what it is, one day it will come out and it’ll be there, right? Now it’s more emotional, with my partner, it’s about getting ready to welcome this new human into the world. … Next: a part of my motherhood is about partnership. No, wait, for me there is no motherhood without partnership. It’s not that mother is taking care of the child and daddy is not because he can’t, because he’s doing something wrong, because whatever. Cause I’m under the impression that mothers always say: leave it, you don’t know how to do it, you’re doing it all wrong. No. Motherhood is partnership. My husband and I, we really made it work. Because my child, even though it’s not his dad, he calls him dad and he treats him like a father, he listens to him like a father, and no means no – it doesn’t matter if I say it or if he says it. Even if I disagree with the no. No means no. If one of us has said it, then it means no. In Polish homes it’s a bit different. In Polish home the father says: go and ask your mom, mom says: go and ask your dad, then dad says yes, mom says no and the child doesn’t know what to do. No. In our house no means no and yes means yes. And the child has to know that the partnership is, I want to show him that this family is based on partnership. And actually, I should also draw the little one here too. It is this kind of partnership, like that. Motherhood is not about: I’m the mother, you don’t know anything, no. Everything is like this, it works in all directions, really. And the last one is that motherhood is one big question mark. You wonder all the time. First of all, all those worries. I don’t know, Polish mothers worry about everything, just in case. … What I learned here very quickly is to put these worries aside, but still, I worry if he’s half an hour late or something.